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The Sounds of Silence

2/11/2015

 
In January I went to a silent retreat for the first time.

There I sat on a cushion on a mat, facing some other soul in a room of about sixty, feeling my poor, overstretched knees go numb yet again. How did I get to this wretchedly uncomfortable place? Before coming I could MAYBE meditate for 20 minutes, a few times a week, and had always felt positive that more than a day of silence would be intolerable.

We had been kind of tricked into it, you see. My mother had met a teacher of zen koans in New Mexico, and now he was offering a winter retreat in Santa Rosa. I explored his web site and I'm pretty sure that nowhere on the site were the words, “You will sit thirty minutes, walk fifteen, sit for thirty more, walk fifteen, sit for thirty more, walk for ten, and then have breakfast. Then start the whole thing over from breakfast to lunch, from lunch to dinner, etc.” Had they been there, even a hint, I probably would not have signed up.

But here we were. The first two days were hard, hard, I’m not going to lie. My brain was not used to this and screamed at me all night long with crazy rhymes and bits of music and chatter. But then it got better. By the fifth day I felt stable, spacious, and integrated, the way I used to feel before adolescence. All through the week I noticed the sounds of silence:

6 a.m., many people in a dark library lit by candles. We've all had a sip of green tea and, here and there, stomachs growl.

The shaft of morning light lengthening as it finds its way down the wall.

A barefoot teacher walking very, very slowly across the carpet and bowing to students.

The collective silence of people eating, eyes downcast to preserve everyone’s privacy. In this space, I discovered the miracle of how extraordinary simple food tastes when you are not busy chatting about something to someone.

The warm silence when a morning fills with birdcalls, and then they all cease.

The peace of one's tiny room upstairs, very different from the meditation hall.

Students pondering a koan late at night by the fireplace. Space to hear the cracking and snapping of a lit log.

Within that mysterious palace of silence, my spine grew and my senses sharpened. Gladness grew in my heart. Was it that simple? We carry our breath wherever we go.

I walked into the garden one morning. Across an expanse of brown twigs, the tangy coral of crab apple blossoms shouted out to me.

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